Sometimes in life it’s more important to be happy than it its to be “right”, and in order to be happy one has to decide when it’s time to choose which battle not to pursue. Does the situation compromise your sense of self? Does the issue at hand threaten the core of you’re wellbeing? If the answer to either of those question is no then it becomes easy to turn the other cheek and be the bigger person. As long as you know in your heart you are staying true to your purpose then who cares what the opposition thinks.
In instances where you are walking the path of least resistance following a confrontation, minding your own business and building your life, but the opposition doesn’t seem to know when to take a couple of seats, being the bigger person can feel like the hardest thing in the world to do. Or can make you feel weak or soft because all while they are hitting your armour with their “best shots”, you’re standing with your white flag waving just knowing the whole world is laughing at you. This can turn an act of humility into one of abject humiliation, promoting you to retaliate and bring you down to your opposition’s level wondering if being the bigger person is really worth it in the end.
When it comes to most disagreements between people who mutually respect each other, it’s easy to agree to disagree and carry on about your lives. In disagreement that lacks respect or where respect is one sided, it becomes egotistically important to the opposition that a winner and a loser be clearly defined. So when you concede you deny your opposition their opportunity to defeat you and gain their win. The only way to be the bigger person with these people is to realize that no matter what you do and no matter how logically you present your case, they will always see you as the loser so it’s best you just walk away. Forever.
It doesn’t matter whether they take their position out of projected low self esteem or willful ignorance, the fact is they are not interested in fairness or logic, they’re only interested in tearing you down to build themselves, so it’s in your best interest to be the bigger person for yourself.