I appreciate and actively participate in the act of communicational venting as a way to relieve pressure and help work towards a solution. Whether it be on a social network, hard copy journal, a support group, or your BFF/BF/GF/DH, etc, taking the time to purge yourself can be very therapeutic, and if there’s a sympathetic eye/ear available, can help put the situation into a new perspective. But what if the things you’re venting about are direct corelaton with your actions, and instead of using the mechanism as a way to work through your emotions, you simply info dump then allow the situation you got so worked up about in the first place to repeat itself? It’s no longer venting then. It’s complaining for the sake of complaining.
Complaining for complaint’s sake can become a bad habit if you grow too comfortable spewing said complaints without any real action to change your circumstances. This behaviour can also wear thin your relationship with those once sympathetic ears who gathered around to support you.
I’ve always been fond of the Serenity Prayer and I try to apply it to my daily life. If I can change a situation that’s causing me grief I actively work to do so. If I can’t change it, I accept that and look for a new, more beneficial situation. Neglecting to do either gives you no room or right to complain if you’re going to settle for the same treatment over and over again, and for that only have yourself to hold accountable.
It’s not enough to simply vent about your issues, unless your frustrations are just momentary and you’re in need of an outlet to get over them. Just like faith without work, venting without action gets you nowhere. Release and then move, or at least begin to plan a move at your earliest opportunity. Life is too short to waste even a second in a state of discontent, and you are too precious too wallow in a valley of self wrought contempt.